If you suffer from premature ejaculation, there may be a physical reason for this issue. However, there's also a high probability that the issue is mental, often a result of you getting too excited or nervous about having intercourse, and then achieving an orgasm too quickly. Premature ejaculation has the ability to end a lovemaking session in a quick and unsatisfying manner, so it's something that you probably want to avoid. Often, repeating mantras to yourself in advance of your sexual encounter can help you to feel calmer. Here are some messages that you may wish to remind yourself.
I Don't Have To Be Perfect
Men want to be perfect in bed as many men view sexual performance as a reflection of their masculinity. While it's noble to want to please your partner, putting pressure on yourself by wanting to be perfect may cause you to be too anxious and achieve your orgasm prematurely. Reminding yourself that you don't have to be perfect, either by repeating this mantra aloud when you're alone or saying it over and over in your head when you're with your partner, may be an effective way to calm down and thus reduce your risk of a premature ejaculation.
I'll Have Sex Again
Knowing that you're going to have intercourse, especially if you're younger or sexually inexperienced, can be highly stimulating — often, to the point that you ejaculate early on in the encounter. Because you perhaps haven't had sexual intercourse a lot, you'll get so excited that you're unable to last for more than a few minutes, and perhaps even less. It may be valuable to remind yourself that even if you're relatively sexually inexperienced right now, you will indeed have sex again. This sentiment can be helpful to calm you down.
I Can Take A Break
Many often have unrealistic expectations about sexual intercourse. You may feel as though you need to have vigorous, uninterrupted sex for 20 or 30 minutes in order to please your partner. The thought of intercourse lasting this long can make you nervous, excited, and overwhelmed, which can potentially lead to premature ejaculation. A simple mantra to remember is that you can take a break. Pausing the intercourse for just a few minutes is an effective way to reduce the stimulation to your body and thus stave off ejaculating. Remembering that a break is possible can be valuable for your anxiety and excitement.